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the power of friendship

A fine example of friendship

July 7, 2011 by Patricia Sands

The very best part of having my novel published is meeting readers. In the past 10 months I’ve had the pleasure of being in the company of some fine, interesting women who, like the ladies of The Bridge Club, have shared a friendship through many decades. I would like to introduce you to one group  that invited me to join them for an evening after they had read The Bridge Club. I couldn’t begin to tell you all they have shared through the years, so these words were sent to me by one of the members. Enjoy their story.

A Brief History of B & B Interest Group

This group was formed in September 1969 by a small collection of Toronto friends, most of whom were physiotherapists. We in turn brought along co-workers, neighbours and other friends.  It began as an investment club and was named “B & B Investment Club” as most of us were home with babies (in those days!) and so were investing our Baby Bonus cheques. You can imagine how much that was!

After 4 years, during which we lost a little, gained a little but learned a lot,  we felt we knew more than Bay Street (home of the Toronto Stock Exchange) , which wasn’t too exciting at that time and so we disbanded.   By then, given the savvy group that we’d become,  our name had changed to “Bull & Bear  Investment Club”.   

After two years (Sept. ’75), having missed the camaraderie & stimulation we had shared,  we decided to re-invent ourselves. This time as an Interest Group.  Out of convenience,  the name B & B remained as that was what was on our bank account.   The group had started with around 20 members and has continued to fluctuate over the years between 18—24 members, most of whom lived in the west end of city.  In 1975 I moved to Oakville, but wanting to remain with group, I started inviting a few Oakville friends to come with me … mainly for company on the drive since most of our meetings were still at night.  Presently we are now pretty evenly divided between Oakville and Toronto.

By the late 70’s we had evolved into quite an interesting and more diverse group; some had returned to work, many were still home raising children and some were career women with no children. Thus, we had extremely varied interests.  We also had a wonderful array of interesting friends, leading to great contacts and resources for our topics/guest speakers.  We have seldom paid huge honorariums for our speakers; as you are well aware, most receive a potted plant, bottle of wine or donation to their favourite charity. We’ve been very fortunate to have such willing and generous friends.

Over the years we’ve continued to meet monthly, except for summer.  Meetings are either at each other’s homes or are outings, tours, etc.  Our June meeting is always a wind-up party (lots of great food & wine!) during which we discuss which book/books we might read over the summer before our September “book review” meeting.  Luckily we have 2 high school English teachers in group who usually lead this.  We’ve covered best sellers, Canadian authors, current/hot topics,, (occasional trashy novel….always good summer read)!  On occasion, as in this month, we’ve been very privileged to actually meet with the author.  The program for the coming season is also discussed with suggested topics, names, dates drawn from hat … we usually work in pairs.   Point of interest … our June parties started out as pot luck (when we had no $$), then evolved to dinners out (while we left dads home to babysit), then once dining out was no longer a novelty we had dinner catered in our homes … now that we’re all retired (several are “pensioners”!), we’re back to doing pot luck … although it’s certainly quite a spread, along with our Xmas party which I forgot to mention!

Over the years we’ve had many interesting and timely topics, enjoyed guest speakers ranging from judges and divorce lawyers,  ministers, doctors and child psychologists, ballerinas, sculptors, gourmet chefs, wine connoisseurs,  fitness experts, furriers, gemologists, genealogists, interior designers, gardeners, retirement planners, representatives of many worthwhile charitable causes (to which we in turn donate), not to mention interesting travelogues, usually presented by our own members as we (eventually) traveled the world.  Tours have included Ford Plant, Woodbine Race track (one of our newer members even owns a racehorse;  she was a very welcome addition), back stage at National Ballet and new Opera House, AGO, ROM and Gairdner exhibits, Air Farce, new CBC building and many more fascinating places.   

On reading through our  history one can easily see how our group and its interests have evolved over the years; about the only thing we haven’t covered is longterm care facilities or “alternate burial” options!

It’s been quite a ride and lots of fun along the way.  Our members have come and gone for various reasons but the majority have been together for  at least 20 years , including some originals.  We currently range in age from mid-60’s to 80.  We’ve had only a couple of divorces, 3 widows, 2 heart attacks, 1 death (age 81), too much cancer, and of course several joint replacements.  I suspect that,  in the near future, most of our meetings  will switch to daytime as fewer people like to drive very far at night.  I do think/hope,  however, that given our long history/association,  we will all do our damnedest to hang in with this very special group.

Sounds like a plan! My sincere thanks to each of you in the B&B Interest Group for a great evening of excellent conversation, lots of laughter, and a most delicious buffet table! Thank you also for your perceptive questions and comments about The Bridge Club. It’s incredibly rewarding to hear readers express how they relate to a writer’s work and your praise was most appreciated. The highlight of the evening, for me, was experiencing the obvious affection and respect you have for each other and for your enduring friendship. As kids say these days, you rock!

If this group of friends reminds you of one you know, I would love to hear from you. These are definitely stories worth sharing. It’s a big part of what makes the world go around.

Filed Under: Blog, Social issues Tagged With: 2011 Next Generation Indie Book Awards Finalist, B&B Interest Group, ForeWord 2010 Book Of The Year Finalist, lifelong friendship, Oakville, Patricia Sands, The Bridge Club, the power of friendship, the value of laughter, Toronto, Women

Canada Day & 4th of July Weekends

July 1, 2011 by Patricia Sands

North America should be rocking this weekend! I imagine just about every citizen in Canada and the United States will be celebrating their wonderful countries. Let’s also remember to toast the brave men and women of the military who support their country and sometimes pay the ultimate price.

This tribute to Canada by Tom Brokaw just before the 2010 Olympic Games in Vancouver is about the best I have ever seen. I hope you take the time to enjoy it. Click here for the video and have a fabulous holiday weekend.

 

Filed Under: Blog, News Tagged With: 4th of July, Canada Day, Patricia Sands, the power of friendship

Renoir, Rubens & Frites City

June 25, 2011 by Patricia Sands

There are few places in the south of France, large or small, that don’t offer a special reason to stop by. Treasures abound of every kind. I’m just saying …

Cagnes-Sur-Mer is ten-minutes west of Nice and easy to reach by the coastal train. Choose to spend time at one of many pebble beaches  or take the shuttle to Haut-de-Cagnes. Stroll the narrow streets of the medieval village where you will find great restaurants and the 13th Century Grimaldi Castle. Plan to visit the beautiful domaine “Les Collettes” , the Musée Renoir, where Pierre-Auguste Renoir, one of the founders of Impressionism, sculpted and painted for the last 11 years of his life. Visitors during that time included Albert André, Rodin, Bonnard, Matisse and Modigliani to name just some.  It was here that Renoir started sculpting with Richard Guino and later Louis Morel.The home and grounds have been authentically restored and visiting his studio, with his wheelchair, easel and brushes as he might have left them, is very touching. The view of Haute-De-Cagnes from the house and olive groves is simply beautiful and visiting artists are often seen throughout the property capturing their own masterpieces. You also suddenly come upon this view driving the A8 west of Nice and it’s quite stunning!

 

A return trip to Grasse  (click on the name to visit the website)was on the agenda last Wednesday only this time we took the bus from the  Grasse train station instead of the 200 steps up to the old town in Centre Ville. (Not to mention the inclines often found between the sets of steps!) I found the steps fun to do last time but my husband’s back did not agree! The more time we spend in this intriguing town, the more surprises we discover. Known as the perfume capital of the world since the 1500’s when the Italian glove makers in the area (this part of France was more connected politically to Italy for many centuries) began to add scents to the gloves, the perfume industry dominates the economy and supplies essences to manufacturers everywhere. At 300m above the Cote D’Azur, the open fields in the surrounding countryside offered the perfect environment for the profusion of fragrant flowers, many developed from seeds brought back from the Crusades. The excellent Museum of Provençal Art and History is housed in an Italianate Villa built  for Jean-Paul Clapier Marquis de Cabris who married Louise de Riqueti daughter of  the Marquis de Mirabeau.  When the couple were required to live with the Dowager Marquisese, Jean-Paul soon fell out with his mother. He proceeded to have his own house built in a way that entirely blocked  her previously magnificent view. If you visit, note the Gorgons Head depicting vomiting vipers  above the front door which reportedly was placed so it would be directly in the line of sight of the old lady. The French have a reputation for dealing with grudges in inventive and long lasting ways. There are several perfume museums in the town that are surprisingly interesting to visit as well.

The Cathedral Notre-Dame Du Puy,dates from the 11th Century and was extended in the 17th. Its bell tower dominates the skyline. The interior is stunning from the enormous, rough-hewn pillars to the three magnificent paintings by Rubens as well as the only religious painting known to be done by Jean Honoré Fragonard, born in Grasse in 1732.

Our week ended on a slightly different cultural note to the above trips. Through the last fifteen years, all of our trips to France have included more research into our quest for the perfect “frites”. Several years ago we spent some time in the beautiful Italian-influenced town of Menton right next to the border with Italy. Just off the main pedestrian way, at the foot of the old town, we discovered the best frites we have ever experienced in the, excusez-moi, unlikely-named “Frites City”. Seriously, we returned several times during our stay there. We hopped on the train and spent last Saturday afternoon in Menton and our first stop was to see if the establishment still existed. It does. The frites continue to be spectacular (the secret is the oil, the owner insists, not to mention the fact that the potatoes are freshly cut right then and there) and we had them for lunch … with a side of French mayonnaise. Magnifique, if not exactly the wisest food choice but we all need to break out every now and then!  Before or after your frites indulgence, visit the very personal Jean Cocteau Gallery  in the 12thC Bastion at the old port. A new museum to house more of his works and those of others from the collection of Severin Wunderman is under construction just across from this which promises to be quite spectacular.

As I share my travels with you, I would love to hear about yours. Where are your favourite places to visit? Some, I know, are in your own back yard. You can leave a comment below or on Facebook and I look forward to hearing from you!

Filed Under: Blog, France, If it is France..., Photo blogs Tagged With: 2011 Next Generation Indie Book Awards Finalist, Cagnes-Sur-Mer, follow your dreams, ForeWord 2010 Book Of The Year Finalist, Frites City, Grasse, Menton, Patricia Sands, The Bridge Club, the power of friendship, Travel on the Cote D'Azur, Women

Huffpost article too good not to share

June 19, 2011 by Patricia Sands

This great article gives readers a very clear picture of the angst most writers feel about promoting their work. It says a lot of things we would like to say ourselves but can’t quite figure out how to work it in with everything else we are talking about. Click here to go to the article “From Writing Quietly to Screaming ‘Buy Me’ – Promoting A Book”.

Thanks to M.J. Rose for posting it on Facebook or I might have missed it.

Filed Under: Blog, News Tagged With: 2011 Next Generation Indie Book Awards Finalist, ForeWord 2010 Book Of The Year Finalist, friendship, Huffington Post, M.J. Rose, promoting and marketing, Randy Susan Meyers, The Bridge Club, the power of friendship, writing

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