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lifelong friendship

A fine example of friendship

July 7, 2011 by Patricia Sands

The very best part of having my novel published is meeting readers. In the past 10 months I’ve had the pleasure of being in the company of some fine, interesting women who, like the ladies of The Bridge Club, have shared a friendship through many decades. I would like to introduce you to one group  that invited me to join them for an evening after they had read The Bridge Club. I couldn’t begin to tell you all they have shared through the years, so these words were sent to me by one of the members. Enjoy their story.

A Brief History of B & B Interest Group

This group was formed in September 1969 by a small collection of Toronto friends, most of whom were physiotherapists. We in turn brought along co-workers, neighbours and other friends.  It began as an investment club and was named “B & B Investment Club” as most of us were home with babies (in those days!) and so were investing our Baby Bonus cheques. You can imagine how much that was!

After 4 years, during which we lost a little, gained a little but learned a lot,  we felt we knew more than Bay Street (home of the Toronto Stock Exchange) , which wasn’t too exciting at that time and so we disbanded.   By then, given the savvy group that we’d become,  our name had changed to “Bull & Bear  Investment Club”.   

After two years (Sept. ’75), having missed the camaraderie & stimulation we had shared,  we decided to re-invent ourselves. This time as an Interest Group.  Out of convenience,  the name B & B remained as that was what was on our bank account.   The group had started with around 20 members and has continued to fluctuate over the years between 18—24 members, most of whom lived in the west end of city.  In 1975 I moved to Oakville, but wanting to remain with group, I started inviting a few Oakville friends to come with me … mainly for company on the drive since most of our meetings were still at night.  Presently we are now pretty evenly divided between Oakville and Toronto.

By the late 70’s we had evolved into quite an interesting and more diverse group; some had returned to work, many were still home raising children and some were career women with no children. Thus, we had extremely varied interests.  We also had a wonderful array of interesting friends, leading to great contacts and resources for our topics/guest speakers.  We have seldom paid huge honorariums for our speakers; as you are well aware, most receive a potted plant, bottle of wine or donation to their favourite charity. We’ve been very fortunate to have such willing and generous friends.

Over the years we’ve continued to meet monthly, except for summer.  Meetings are either at each other’s homes or are outings, tours, etc.  Our June meeting is always a wind-up party (lots of great food & wine!) during which we discuss which book/books we might read over the summer before our September “book review” meeting.  Luckily we have 2 high school English teachers in group who usually lead this.  We’ve covered best sellers, Canadian authors, current/hot topics,, (occasional trashy novel….always good summer read)!  On occasion, as in this month, we’ve been very privileged to actually meet with the author.  The program for the coming season is also discussed with suggested topics, names, dates drawn from hat … we usually work in pairs.   Point of interest … our June parties started out as pot luck (when we had no $$), then evolved to dinners out (while we left dads home to babysit), then once dining out was no longer a novelty we had dinner catered in our homes … now that we’re all retired (several are “pensioners”!), we’re back to doing pot luck … although it’s certainly quite a spread, along with our Xmas party which I forgot to mention!

Over the years we’ve had many interesting and timely topics, enjoyed guest speakers ranging from judges and divorce lawyers,  ministers, doctors and child psychologists, ballerinas, sculptors, gourmet chefs, wine connoisseurs,  fitness experts, furriers, gemologists, genealogists, interior designers, gardeners, retirement planners, representatives of many worthwhile charitable causes (to which we in turn donate), not to mention interesting travelogues, usually presented by our own members as we (eventually) traveled the world.  Tours have included Ford Plant, Woodbine Race track (one of our newer members even owns a racehorse;  she was a very welcome addition), back stage at National Ballet and new Opera House, AGO, ROM and Gairdner exhibits, Air Farce, new CBC building and many more fascinating places.   

On reading through our  history one can easily see how our group and its interests have evolved over the years; about the only thing we haven’t covered is longterm care facilities or “alternate burial” options!

It’s been quite a ride and lots of fun along the way.  Our members have come and gone for various reasons but the majority have been together for  at least 20 years , including some originals.  We currently range in age from mid-60’s to 80.  We’ve had only a couple of divorces, 3 widows, 2 heart attacks, 1 death (age 81), too much cancer, and of course several joint replacements.  I suspect that,  in the near future, most of our meetings  will switch to daytime as fewer people like to drive very far at night.  I do think/hope,  however, that given our long history/association,  we will all do our damnedest to hang in with this very special group.

Sounds like a plan! My sincere thanks to each of you in the B&B Interest Group for a great evening of excellent conversation, lots of laughter, and a most delicious buffet table! Thank you also for your perceptive questions and comments about The Bridge Club. It’s incredibly rewarding to hear readers express how they relate to a writer’s work and your praise was most appreciated. The highlight of the evening, for me, was experiencing the obvious affection and respect you have for each other and for your enduring friendship. As kids say these days, you rock!

If this group of friends reminds you of one you know, I would love to hear from you. These are definitely stories worth sharing. It’s a big part of what makes the world go around.

Filed Under: Blog, Social issues Tagged With: 2011 Next Generation Indie Book Awards Finalist, B&B Interest Group, ForeWord 2010 Book Of The Year Finalist, lifelong friendship, Oakville, Patricia Sands, The Bridge Club, the power of friendship, the value of laughter, Toronto, Women

Awesome chocolate cake recipe!Better late than never…

July 4, 2011 by Patricia Sands

If you are looking for another post about France, it will be here on Friday. I’ve decided that until the end of September, every Friday will feature the “If it’s Friday, it must be France” post. `A vendredi!

Now this post is WAY overdue! Last November we held the launch party for The Bridge Club at the funky Gladstone Hotel in the artsy Queen Street East district of Toronto. It was a blast! Not only did we have great music by the awesome jazz band, The Fabulous Quitters, but to my surprise Nicole Lachapelle, cakebaker extraordinaire, made this work of art. She replicated every last detail of the book cover, enlisted the help of our son Sasha (her boyfriend) to help with some of the heavy labour, and even created a look down the sides that resembled pages. Very impressive!

Favourite Chocolate Layer Cake

1 cup butter, softened

1 ½ cups granulated sugar

2  eggs

1 tsp vanilla

2 cups all-purpose flour

½ cup cocoa powder

1 tsp each baking powder and baking soda

¼ tsp salt

1 ½ cups buttermilk

CHOCOLATE ICING:

1 ½ cups butter, softened

½ cup whipping cream

1 tbsp vanilla

3 cups icing sugar

6 oz unsweetened chocolate, chopped, melted and cooled

In a large bowl, beat butter with sugar until fluffy. Beat in eggs, 1 at a time; beat in vanilla. In separate bowl, sift together flour, cocoa, baking powder, baking soda and salt. Stir into butter mixture alternately with buttermilk, making 3 additions of dry ingredients and 2 of buttermilk.

Spoon into 2 greased then parchment paper-lined 9-inch round metal cake pans. Bake in centre of 350 degrees F (180 degrees C) oven for 30 to 35 minutes or until cake tester inserted in centre come out clean. Let cool on rack for 20 minutes. Remove from pans; let cool completely on racks. Cut each cake horizontally into 2 layers.

CHOCOLATE ICING: In a bowl, beat butter until fluffy; gradually beat in cream. Beat in vanilla. Beat in sugar, about 1 cup at a time. Beat in chocolate until fluffy.

Place 1 layer, cut side up, on cake plate. Slide strips of waxed paper between cake and plate. Spread cut side with about ¾ cup of the icing; cover with remaining half. Cut side down. Spread top with another ¾ cup of the icing. Repeat with remaining layers.

Spread remaining icing over the side and top. Remove paper strips. ( Make-ahead: cover loosely and refrigerate for up to 2 days. Let come to room temperature before serving.) Makes 16 to 20 servings.

Nicole doubled the recipe to make this amazing replica of my novel and every last crumb was devoured. DELICIOUS. Thanks Nic! With her permission I am sharing the recipe here and definitely recommend it to all lovers of things chocolate.

Filed Under: Blog, Writing Tagged With: 2011 Next Generation Indie Book Awards Finalist, best chocolate cake recipe, ForeWord 2010 Book Of The Year Finalist, lifelong friendship, Patricia Sands, self-publishing, The Bridge Club

Bonjour mes amis!

June 13, 2011 by Patricia Sands

Please join me in the south of France for the summer! My husband and I have rented an apartment in Antibes between Nice and Cannes. We have visited this area on several vacations and fell in love with the beauty, the history, the culture, the people, the weather … I could go on but you will see what I mean … and besides that, I LOVE to speak French! I think I must have been born here in another life!

The two most important criteria we wanted for our accommodation were location and view and we have both to perfection. In fact, there really is no need for a car as we can get to so many places all along the Riviera and even into Italy from the train station just down the street. The town of Antibes is more like a village and one walks everywhere. There’s a car rental agency around the corner from us if we want to go further afield from time to time.

As you know, photography is a passion of mine so my beloved Canon Rebel XT has been steaming. I’ll get some photos organized and share them here in the next week or so. We’ve spent the past few weeks getting settled here and also having visits from some good friends, which we’ve spent exploring and discovering. I’ll share some of those discoveries as well – beautiful perched villages, switchback roads that open onto stunning vistas, talented artists and traditional artisans, fabulous coastal towns and beaches, architecture that takes your breath away from the very simple to the sumptuous, and restaurants … oo la la, the restaurants.

What does this have to do with my writing? Well I’ve been working on my next novel and when I knew we were coming to this part of the world for an extended time, my storyline moved over here too. I’m busy making notes and plotting and hopefully will have something close to a finished product by the time we leave. It’s easy to be motivated here as the ghosts of  artists come to you in the narrow streets lined with shuttered houses, many hundreds of years old. Writers as early back as 1500 BC left their work in caves in the area. In the last few centuries a long list of  influential writers found inspiration here including Dickens, Louisa May Alcott, DeMaupassant, Edith Wharton, Somerset Maugham, Graham Green, James Joyce, Nabakov, Gertrude Stein, Hemingway, Fitzgerald, Pound, Sylvia Plath and the list goes on. Van Gogh, Monet, Matisse, Renoir, Chagall, Picasso, Bracque, Miro  are just a few of another equally long list of painters and sculptors who found the special light and air of the south of France irresistible.

The musical history of the area, particularly during the Jazz Age, is also impressive and we are excited to be here for the Jazz Festival of Nice in early July, followed by the 51st anniversary of Jazz A Juan in next-door Juan-Les-Pins. More on those later.

If spending an extended time in a different part of the world is something that appeals to you, talk to me about it. We are experienced home exchangers and renters and I have lots of good tips. I’m happy to say we have never had a bad experience.

There’s a small fish market on the pier at the end of our street so I’m off to consider our dinner menu and shoot some more photos of the local fishermen cleaning their nets.

A bientot! (Now I’ll have to figure out how to add the french accents to my text!)

Filed Under: Blog, France, If it is France... Tagged With: 2011 Next Generation Indie Book Awards Finalist, Antibes, Cote D'Azur, facing problems, follow your dreams, ForeWord 2010 Book Of The Year Finalist, French Riviera, lifelong friendship, living in the south of France, Patricia Sands, The Bridge Club, the power of friendship, the value of laughter, Women

2011 BookExpo America – what’s new and what’s next!

May 24, 2011 by Patricia Sands

There’s a lot of book buzz in The Big Apple this week! The largest annual book fair in the United States is being held May 23 to 26 in New York City. Commonly referred to as BEA, BookExpo America is the book industry’s premier trade show in the USA. Locations sometimes vary but each spring booksellers from across the country are provided with an opportunity to preview publishers’ upcoming titles, as well as take part in education and information sessions, author breakfasts and lunches, and other special events. Networking rules! In addition, authors, editors, librarians, buyers for book retailers, and the literati in general get to immerse themselves in a three-day bookfest visiting booths and exhibits and socializing with colleagues. Somewhere in that mix and amongst thousands of other books, The Bridge Club is being exhibited on a bookshelf and in catalogues. It’s a thrill and an honour! Perhaps one of these years I’ll actually get to be there as well. It never hurts to dream!
Click here to read about all of the exciting events.

Filed Under: Blog, Writing Tagged With: 2011 Next Generation Indie Book Awards Finalist, adoption issues, alcohol rehab, alcohol rehab. Alzheimer’s, BEA 2011, BookExpo America 2011, breast cancer support, facing problems, ForeWord 2010 Book Of The Year Finalist, friendship, internet porn addiction, iUniverse, lifelong friendship, loss, self-deliverance, The Bridge Club, the power of friendship, women's support group

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